Monday, June 13, 2005

Husband FOR SALE!!!

Today is a bad day :( ...I try and stay positive most the time even through trails ,but today I am having a hard time doing that .I am not sure if I will get to post a happier post later or not ..Guppy has to come home and discuss some things with me ..Apparently he has jacked up some finances ..GRRRRRRRRRR!!!! Have I ever mentioned that he is a wonderful man but very very shitty with money ?I am thinking that after tonight ..I will be in charge of all the money in this household ..What do you do when your husband seems to be perfect for you besides the fact that he sucks with money? I am lost here..All I know is I can not keep having him mess with our finances like he does ..He keeps it from me too ...I mean I am his wife ..I should be the ONE person he can confide in about anything right ? I always thought so, but apparently I am badly mistaken ...Sorry I made this into a bitch fest but I am severely frustrated and needed an outlet ...Anyway ...I am off to wait for him to arrive home and tell me how bad the damage is ..Ya'll keep us in your thoughts and prayers ...

16 comments:

  1. Awww..I'm sorry. I think it's time for you to take control!!

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  2. could you maybe look after your finances together? maybe do an excel spreadsheet budget type of thing? you wouldn't want everything to be perfect in your marriage, when stuff like this happens, you can actually build towards a stronger relationship. i know money is great to have, but it's not everything, so unless you are about to be homeless, it's really just a little set back, avoidable, probably, worth booting him out of the house for good, no way. he's a keeper, you remember that. and feel free to vent anytime you need, i'm always hear to listen.:)

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  3. I will keep you in my thoughts...I hope everything work out for you.

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  4. Just remember that you guys are a team. So many wives give their husbands allowances and such. That is emasculating. Sit down and talk about it. I am sure y'all can work it out.

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  5. You do just what you're doing. You take control, and good luck with that, you both are in my prayers and thought! :-)

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  6. you'll be in my prayers chicka!

    money... oooh, sensitive topic. i've always managed the money 'coz we decided that i was the cheapskate.;) but, we talk budgeting together... my hubby tells me how much he needs and i work it in our budget. if it's not essential, he knows better than to ask me money for it.

    and yes, he's the sole earner in this family. LOL! he just acknowledges that i handle the money better.

    p.s. i also have the excel file for monthly budgeting... give a holler if you need it.

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  7. hey girl!

    send me an email so i can send you the file!;)

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  8. I sit with the budget and then tell my hubby how much he has left after bills are paid to spend. He calls it his alowance..LOL

    I hope it works out ok and its not real bad. Money is such a pain in the butt. Never enough of it.

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  9. My Mum has put up with my Dad messing their finances up for the last 38 years - Sometimes we have to take our partners warts and all - I hope everything works out ok........

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  10. Understand how you feel.

    Sit down and talk about it with Guppy, hope the damage is not too much, but in the end, so long as you have each other, and the communication is OPEN, you hopefully will get over this speedhump.

    Take care, thinking of you all.

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  11. Bless your heart! I've been there way TOO MANY TIMES!! Just hang in there...it will smooth out..somehow it always does with us. Just remember how much you love him!!

    Love ya, girl!

    ang

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  12. We have money issues too, sometimes it's me, and sometimes it's him. And from all your responses I've read above me, it sounds like the money issue is something that everyone goes through. It's a touchy subject.

    One thing I know for sure, I'd never offer my husband for sale, or bash him on my blog .... no matter what. JMO.

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  13. I know not, but when you figure it out will you let me know? I'm in the same predicament!

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  14. Wow, sorry honey! I am in charge over here and most of the time I wish I wasn't. I will keep my fingers & toes crossed for you two. *hugs*

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  15. You might have to put him on an allowence, sad to say but if he has no control what else can you do? Take away the credit, debit or anything else he can easily get cash from. Do a budget, and if there's something he would like, maybe you can work it into your budget somehow. Good Luck!

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  16. My response is a little late in the game, but Dave & I don't spend more than $25-$30 on a particular item before discussing it with each other first, not after. It used to be $50, but now that we are down to 1 income with an extra mouth to feed, it's a lower amount. Oh, and we BOTH have to agree or the item either doesn't get purchased or is tabled, for later discussion. Hope this helps. M :-)

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